If Only He’d Do What I Ask!

Last week we started exploring codependency, a pattern of relating that negatively affects many marriages. Quite a few times I’ve been asked, How does codependency start? The roots of codependency are established in childhood in response to a dysfunctional family setting with chaos, trauma, abuse, neglect and/or mistreatment. The child may experience shaming, judgements, blaming, …

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How to Fix your Husband

Anne guessed her husband must have lost track of time again and texted him, “Where are you? Dinner is on its way and I ordered your favorite, so get here ASAP to enjoy!” She tried not to sound overly demanding in texts, and frequently peppered her demands with compliments, ‘please,’ and smiling emoticons.  The house …

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I’ll Have the Fruit

Earlier this month, a co-worker challenged me to complete 25 acts of kindness during the days leading up to Christmas. I accepted, figuring my list would fill up in no time. Not quite. Days went by, and even though I stayed alert to actions I could add to the kindness chart, I had nothing! Did …

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She’s Angry… Watch out!

I was angry at my husband. REALLY angry. For no particular reason, either. There had been no fight. No unkind words. In fact, he’d been texting and Face-Timing me on a daily basis during the week we’d been apart. I was in Northern Wisconsin for two weeks while my son visited a nearby university. So much …

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