One Final Word on Codependency

We’ve been exploring the painful condition of codependency for several weeks. I received so many messages from wives who need a little more encouragement in this area, I wanted to share once more. First – remember that you did not choose to be a codependent; it was a behavior learned in childhood. Second – identifying with …

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Angry or Recovering?

The past few weeks we’ve been tackling codependency, especially the destructive impact it has on marriages. Today we conclude the series by comparing the codependent who chooses to ignore her negative patterns, with one who is living in recovery. If you’ve been following this blog for a while, you may have experienced some eye-opening moments… …

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If Only He’d Do What I Ask!

Last week we started exploring codependency, a pattern of relating that negatively affects many marriages. Quite a few times I’ve been asked, How does codependency start? The roots of codependency are established in childhood in response to a dysfunctional family setting with chaos, trauma, abuse, neglect and/or mistreatment. The child may experience shaming, judgements, blaming, …

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How to Fix your Husband

Anne guessed her husband must have lost track of time again and texted him, “Where are you? Dinner is on its way and I ordered your favorite, so get here ASAP to enjoy!” She tried not to sound overly demanding in texts, and frequently peppered her demands with compliments, ‘please,’ and smiling emoticons.  The house …

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