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4-Steps to Protect your Marriage from Comparisons

I am competitive. An athlete in high school, I used to thrive on the opportunity to set swim meet records, block the soccer shot, or make a free throw.  Competition motivated me to work harder and improve my skills. It did the same for my college studies. But being competitive in marriage is dangerous. Ever …

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Church Lady with a Mohawk?

Last week, I got a haircut. A really edgy haircut. Less edgy, more ‘jump out of a plane” cut. First question from my stylist?  “What do you think your husband is going to say?” I didn’t know.  But I wasn’t worried. He's been encouraging (well at least accepting of) my unconventional looks for years. Throughout …

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What to Do When Your Husband is Mean

You’re riding along the path of wedded bliss and out of nowhere – WHAM – you get broadsided by an unwelcome or hurtful comment from your husband. Maybe it was a criticism or an accusation. He might have ridiculed you about a mistake you’d made in the past. Perhaps he portrayed you in an unflattering …

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One Final Word on Codependency

We’ve been exploring the painful condition of codependency for several weeks. I received so many messages from wives who need a little more encouragement in this area, I wanted to share once more. First – remember that you did not choose to be a codependent; it was a behavior learned in childhood. Second – identifying with …

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How to Fix your Husband

Anne guessed her husband must have lost track of time again and texted him, “Where are you? Dinner is on its way and I ordered your favorite, so get here ASAP to enjoy!” She tried not to sound overly demanding in texts, and frequently peppered her demands with compliments, ‘please,’ and smiling emoticons.  The house …

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I’ll Have the Fruit

Earlier this month, a co-worker challenged me to complete 25 acts of kindness during the days leading up to Christmas. I accepted, figuring my list would fill up in no time. Not quite. Days went by, and even though I stayed alert to actions I could add to the kindness chart, I had nothing! Did …

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She’s Angry… Watch out!

I was angry at my husband. REALLY angry. For no particular reason, either. There had been no fight. No unkind words. In fact, he’d been texting and Face-Timing me on a daily basis during the week we’d been apart. I was in Northern Wisconsin for two weeks while my son visited a nearby university. So much …

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