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Church Lady with a Mohawk?

Last week, I got a haircut. A really edgy haircut. Less edgy, more ‘jump out of a plane” cut. First question from my stylist?  “What do you think your husband is going to say?” I didn’t know.  But I wasn’t worried. He's been encouraging (well at least accepting of) my unconventional looks for years. Throughout …

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What to Do When Your Husband is Mean

You’re riding along the path of wedded bliss and out of nowhere – WHAM – you get broadsided by an unwelcome or hurtful comment from your husband. Maybe it was a criticism or an accusation. He might have ridiculed you about a mistake you’d made in the past. Perhaps he portrayed you in an unflattering …

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One Final Word on Codependency

We’ve been exploring the painful condition of codependency for several weeks. I received so many messages from wives who need a little more encouragement in this area, I wanted to share once more. First – remember that you did not choose to be a codependent; it was a behavior learned in childhood. Second – identifying with …

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If Only He’d Do What I Ask!

Last week we started exploring codependency, a pattern of relating that negatively affects many marriages. Quite a few times I’ve been asked, How does codependency start? The roots of codependency are established in childhood in response to a dysfunctional family setting with chaos, trauma, abuse, neglect and/or mistreatment. The child may experience shaming, judgements, blaming, …

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How to Fix your Husband

Anne guessed her husband must have lost track of time again and texted him, “Where are you? Dinner is on its way and I ordered your favorite, so get here ASAP to enjoy!” She tried not to sound overly demanding in texts, and frequently peppered her demands with compliments, ‘please,’ and smiling emoticons.  The house …

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